About

Whatever brought you here – welcome! My name is Cindy and I’m a DC-area writer, photographer, and stay-at-home mom. I’m also a JC girl, so while you’ll find I often share elements of my faith in my writing, you’ll never have to worry about me secretly trying to convert you with my words. Faith doesn’t work that way, and I’m horrible at being subtle.

I started blogging here six years ago as a way to find humor, sanity, and community in the midst of new motherhood. I had loads of things to write about because ridiculous things always seemed to happen to me. They still do. Only now that my girls are older I find myself with less to share. Not because I’d evolved into a great mom who stopped humiliating herself on a regular basis. (Wouldn’t that be nice.) It’s just that now most of the stories aren’t mine to tell, and the last thing I want to do is put my kids in awkward spots now that their friends are online – growing up as a girl is hard enough!

So now Bad Mommy Moments is a mixture of funny, old posts/embarrassing moments, and new, more mature reflections and insights on motherhood…and embarrassing moments. Who am I kidding? Humiliating myself has just become part of who I am.

When I’m not writing about motherhood you’ll find me photographing children and families at CindyKane.me,  Tumblr and Instagram. I’m also a storyteller with SpeakeasyDC - you can check out some of my live stories here.

{ 22 comments }

molly August 30, 2008 at 10:29 pm

I love how much you love HUSBAND! When we worked together he talked constantly about how much he loved you and how lucky he was. So cute to see it from the other side. Life is hard. Having something so great in your life makes it easier.

Ink Chick September 9, 2008 at 12:54 pm

love you life. :)
wish i was closer to you guys so we could share our lives together
:(

Carrie January 20, 2009 at 6:06 pm

You are hilarious. I also love the poetry. Thanks for making me laugh till I cried. :) The elevator conversation was especially great.

ymK September 1, 2009 at 7:26 am

The blessing of waking up ass early one morning- I find new thing on your blog. When I had started blogging, I used to spend hours going through your posts, new and old. (You already know I love your blog) But then, I got introduced to so many other nice blogs, and time just flies reading so many posts and commenting.
Today feels like those early days, and it feels good.
Thanks ck, for a lovely blog.

Elizabeth October 7, 2009 at 4:53 pm

dear bmm,
you have no idea what exciting thing happened to me today! i was doing laundry when the phone rang. it was my husband and his excitement when he greeted me was palpable. “Babe!” he said, “What??” I said, expecting he got a promotion or something.
“Did you see you had a comment on your blog?”
“What?” I said. I created my blog because most of our friends and family are on the east coast (we are in the midwest) and it was a way to stay connected. Unfortunately, I don’t feel like anyone really reads it. So I was shocked to hear I actually had a comment. You can only imagine, then, how I almost fell on the floor when he said, “Here let me read it to you… Bad Mommy Moments writes….” and then he went on to tell me that you actually thought one of my entries was funny! Not to mention that you READ MY BLOG (how did that ever happen?)
My friend told me about your blog several months ago and since then I have been so hooked. In fact, you have inspired me to start a “real” blog, not the sometimes-fake-bullshit that i write on my current blog to be sure that less-than-gracious people won’t really know what i am thinking. i still haven’t thought of a clever blog name, though, so I still haven’t done it. But the “elusive cozy coupe” entry was a shot at something more genuine.
so let me just say, i am so honored that you would read one of my entries and comment. your blog means a lot to me and other mothers. there is a great book— the mask of motherhood, and it’s about how we perpetuate this fake bullshit about motherhood which leaves us all feeling alone and inadequate. your blog, to me, is someone taking off that mask and showing all other mothers that it’s okay to be completely annoyed an repulsed by your kids, its okay to hate mothering, it’s okay to be real. thank you.
i work part time as a psychotherapist and i’ve given your blog address to other mothers that i treat, as a way for them to accept their own feelings about being a mother. i am currently developing a seminar/presentation for new moms in my community to help pull that mask off. your blog is on my list of resources that i will be handing out. (in fact, would it be okay if i powerpointed a entry or two to show in my presentation?)
so, thanks so much. it’s actually amazing to me that we found your comment. i never check since no one ever writes anything. my husband found it inadvertently!
keep writing (and your pictures are fantastic too)! we’re all listening.
elizabeth

Michele October 20, 2009 at 1:40 am

As you no doubt already know, I just found your blog.. how it escaped my keen eye for the hysterical and honest mom blogs, I do not know.

I could literaly spend HOURS on here, reading old posts…. awww crap, who am I kidding ~ I probably will.

Your voice, humour, and passion absolutely JUMP off the pages. And, like most of your followers, I feel like I’ve known you forever after only reading a few posts.
Thank you for sharing your gift with the “bloggy world”… it is certainly a better place with you in it!!!!

And the title ( “what, you thought getting the kid out was the hard part?) I almost pee’d in pants. Right there, I knew I would be hooked!!!

Cindy Arko January 12, 2010 at 8:20 pm

Love the way you describe your husband and I am having a fun time reading through your blog posts after my friend Yvonne recommended it!
Thanks!

Birdy January 23, 2010 at 10:54 pm

My mom and I sat here reading you past blog posts for about an hour and the two of us were literally crying and laughing so hard we could barely talk…I read aloud and she listened…I could barely see through the stream of tears pouring down my face. Thanks for a good time :)

Molly March 3, 2010 at 3:33 pm

Damn CK, you are so awesome! I love your new website and I’m so happy to have a place to turn when I want to throttle my three boys (yes, I’m including Bob) and I need a sane person who has walked in these shoes to make me laugh or cry or at least keep going. You rock. Your blog rocks. Your husband is so not a paper champion. And your girls are hilarious and gorgeous. Some life for a little 32 year old prodigy. xoxo

Jen March 3, 2010 at 6:03 pm

I have tears about the tree.

afallingleaf March 18, 2010 at 10:51 pm

I’m new to WordPress, after having a blog on another site for 4.5 years … I’m so glad I was directed here, and look forward to reading more of you.

Jenny May 4, 2010 at 9:43 pm

Hi! I have missed you so! Took up some freelance writing work, and of course, bit off nearly too much for me to chew. A friend of mine brought this show to my attention today, and I immediately thought of you and your fabulous blog and creativity and talent. Is there anything like this in your neck of the woods? If not, you should totally create it! It’s like the Vagina Monologues but more like the Weakened Pelvic Floor Monologues! http://listentoyourmothershow.blogspot.com/

WackyMummy May 12, 2010 at 10:54 pm

Thanks for stopping by my blog today and leaving your comment and encouragement. I enjoy your writing… very dry with surprises of humor… in amidst the real life crap.

anushruti May 15, 2010 at 11:36 pm

I’m glad you met my sister on the train. :-) Am happy to find your space here.!

rebecca May 20, 2010 at 8:02 am

I just read this bit about the Maple tree. Your whole introduction is so full of Bad-momminess and how you yearn to escape it at one level….that the brilliant color and your words of this photo help me to see what I suspected all along: Your kids may draw out the outter gimey layer of badmomminess, but that is only to reveal the abundant color and harvest that is autumn.

I’m excited to read more about you!

ck May 20, 2010 at 10:06 pm

Thank you so much, Rebecca. And thanks for your comment on Momalom as well!

Kate June 18, 2010 at 11:59 pm

I just finally got around to reading who you are. I met my guy in college too, yikes 13 years ago (closing in on 14) and I have two girls too- 5 and 1, and my little lost one would be nearly two. Some how, I think that was my boy. Amazing what that does.
I really enjoy your writing. Thanks!

Average Girl June 30, 2010 at 9:25 am

Fantastic blog…I’ll be eager to return, to be among venting (yet, of course, loving) mothers…

Tessa August 24, 2010 at 12:27 pm

LOVE your blog. Just found it, am sorta new to blogland. Thanks for visiting me, visitors make me oh so excited !!!
Good to have found you and I love the rawness of exploiting all of our bad mommy moments. We all have them, why hide it? Let’s make each other feel normal and talk about it.
Thank you!

Jen March 7, 2011 at 9:06 pm

I have been following you for awhile! I figured I would bust out of the stalker shadows and tell you that I just love your blog! It is sooooo great and definitely one of the best I have found! I stole your button for my website! :)
Thank you for the many laughs!

ck March 8, 2011 at 2:15 pm

Thanks, Jen! Reading this made my morning.

Amy Doyle April 19, 2011 at 4:17 pm

Hey CK-
Don’t know if MK has ever told you but I really love your blog – and empathize with so much of it. Recently though, I am wondering if you have any brilliant ideas for how to cast my new series “I’m Pregnant And…” The idea is things like I’m Pregnant and in Prison, Homeless, a Stripper, Anorexic, etc. Have you ever come across any great blogs written by women who are pregnant and in an unusual situation, have a medical problem or unique lifestyle? There are so many pregnancy blogs out there, but most just deal with the humdrum daily life of being pregnant. Just thought I would ask someone who is an expert how best to find those gems. And because you have a lot of time to do my job for me since you only have to deal with two kids all day long :)
(In case it doesn’t translate on paper, that is a HUGE joke. I would crash and burn as a SAHM.)