Losing a Baby

Everyone experiences loss, and miscarriage is common. But nothing prepared me for what it felt like to carry a baby I knew was dead.

They say it’s not the loss, but how you handle it that defines who you are. I hope they’re right.

Below is the story of THREE. From her surprise entrance, to her surprise exit.

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Cindy Kane tells true story at the SpeakeasyDC ensemble performance “Bad Mommy Moments.” from SpeakeasyDC on Vimeo.

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The Humping Dog (THREE, part I)

End of the Affair (THREE, part II)

Deconstructing the Announcement (THREE, part III)

What to Say When Your Friend is “Surprised” by a Third Pregnancy

ONE Benes

M&Ms and Tater Tots

Minivan

ROT

Sonogram Results

Option 2

Red Sunset

Reading Instructions

One Step Back

Birthday Girl

Grateful

Forgetting THREE

Why?

Beauty and Buttercups

Lucky Number THREE

Glimpses

The Walk Home

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Peace for Despair - the story of another mom who found the peace of God while holding her deceased child.

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“…but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And this hope will never let us down.” Romans 5:3-4

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The Mother September 12, 2009 at 4:05 pm

I think it’s how you handle all of life’s trials that defines you.

This one I never encountered. But I know women who have, and it affects everyone differently. I’m glad you have found your way.

Michele October 20, 2009 at 1:44 am

Awww, Darlin…
I love these posts. I too have lost a child in a similar way… TWICE!!!
Trinity is my miracle baby… having 8 miscarriages in total.

So really, there is nothing I can add, except to say, thank you for sharing, and digging so deep! What an amazing, strong woman you are.

Kate May 22, 2010 at 4:37 pm

A kind friend told me, ‘ miscarriage may be common, but when I had mine it wasn’t common to me.’ This was after she asked if I was going to have another baby and I blurted something truly terrible back. And that’s why I never ask are you’re going have another? Because we just don’t know these things. Unless we’re done.
I hope our little lost ones are playing together up there.

Arin August 7, 2010 at 1:48 am

I love this blog. Thank you, I can so relate! I understand your loss as well… I had two and lost two in 2.5 years recently so I understand a lot of what you were saying.

Future Mom August 10, 2010 at 12:31 pm

I’m truly enlightened by reading this… just two weeks ago, I had a miscarriage only two weeks after discovering my pregnancy…. it hurt me very bad because I really want children and it was my first pregnancy. I was so excited, I told everyone in my family as soon as my doctor confirmed it… hopefully I will become a mother sooner rather than later :)

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